Sunday, October 7, 2007

Am I only what you see?

I've been thinking a lot about the labels we put on ourselves. Mother. Father. Wife. Husband. SAHM. Full-time employee. Part-time employee Unemployed. It's amazing how one word can change your perspective on things. Some of them are positive, while some are negative.

Having this part-time job has been enlightening. Not just for myself personally - I still can't believe I've been hired as an editor - but, it's amazing the response I get from people who hear about the situation. I told a neighbor that I'd been grappling with my "purpose" and that I thought working would help bring me closer to that. She told me my purpose had just gotten on the bus, and that a job was just a job.

Wow. I continued walking the dog and wondered why it is so difficult for people to think that women can only have one role. Sure, I love that I've got two kids. Maybe my purpose here on Earth was to have these two kids specifically (not with another man other than my husband) because maybe these two little guys will grow up to do something really important. But isn't that sad to think that my only purpose is to have kids? Don't get me wrong; I love being a mother. I wouldn't change that part of my life for anything. But I do believe that I can be more than just a mother, just a wife, just an editor.

There's more to me than just what people expect. Just like there's more to you than what people expect. Right?


Morgan St. John said...

feeling that wholeheartedly! I think part of it is making the decision to be...

It's the confidence to say, I'm a writer, despite the fact that there are four children hanging on your arms, you're standing in a very messy kitchen and the pile of clothes in the living room still needs to be folded.

:D I am a writer...inspired by being a mother, wife, SAHM, and unemployed!

Kris Yankee said...

Nicely put, Morgan!

It's hard to distinguish labels when it comes to purpose and passion. A fellow writer sent me a comment about this post, stating that our "purpose (everyone's) should be to be a great human being."

Wouldn't it be great if we all had this same purpose while trying to follow our passion? It's something to think about.